As a family who has had our fair share of moving with children, we certainly understand that moving can be stressful for families, even if the move is for a positive reason. The main goal of a family relocation is to cause minimal disruption to the lives of our children. You can take certain steps to make the transition as easy as possible.
6 Easy Tips on How to make moving easier for kids
Yes it is easier to complete a move in the absence of children, but as tempting as it may be to send them off while we deal with the details, we want to ask you to reconsider. Children can cope with their fear and anxiety over a move by participating in moving-related activities. You may also think that the children are too young to understand, but if they are offered an explanation for why they will be living in a new home and you create excitement about the move, it will be easier for them to adjust.
1. Involve Them
If you give your kids some responsibilities and make them feel like they a part of the process, they will become enthusiastic about moving. There are many ways to do this.
Here are a few ideas:
– Take your child to look at the new area, new house and new school.
– Help them to make a few friends while you visit the area.
– Let them take photographs or draw pictures of the new home, school, parks or cool spots that excite them.
– Scout the area before you move and let the kids choose some fun activities they would like to do.
– If you are unable to take them to see the new house and area, collect all those tourist pamphlets and let the kids make a scrap book of activities in the new area that interest them. (This also keeps those little hands and minds busy while you are packing.)
– Encourage them to plan their new bedroom.
– Read fun books on moving.
2. Stay Calm and Get Organized
We know that is crazy talk when you are in the throes of a move, but children will notice if the move is making you stressed or frustrated. The calmer you are, the more they sense a positive experience. Once you have arrived, with all your boxes try to get settled as quickly as possible and resume familiar routines like mealtimes, bedtimes and family times.
3. Pack Their Room Last and Unpack Their Room First
Packing their room last ensures that they have a safe haven while the rest of the move is going on. On moving day let your child pack an overnight box of favorite items that they can unpack when they arrive. This helps to make them feel involved and keeps them busy and excited when your move is being offloaded.
4. Prepare Them
Explain the move day to your kids carefully so that they are prepared. It is very important to help your children to say goodbye. You can host a goodbye party for friends and give your child an address book so that they can stay in touch with their friends. Plan a trip back to their old hometown to visit their friends.
5. Make Your First Night Memorable
No matter how tired you are at the end of the day, try to enjoy a special family dinner in your home on the first night, even if you are sitting on the floor or making a fort out of empty boxes. Try our easy recipe found here.
6. Give Them Time To Adjust
It is true that children are resilient and adapt quickly but allow them time to adjust too. Sometimes kids really miss their old home, friends and school. Put photos up of their old rooms and friends and encourage them to talk about their feelings. They will adjust and they will be calling out, “Mom! I’m home!” in no time.
Yours in Moving
Anton, Megan & The Monarch Relocations Team
Photo Credit: Karin Haasbroek